The Courage To Accept Rejections

Rejections are an unavoidable part of life. It’s like a slap in the face but the fact is that your face doesn’t hurt; your soul hurts and the intensity of pain is quite good too. As soon as we experience REJECTION we start analysing ourselves to understand which wrong step led to a particular rejection and can it be undone? It’s a rare chance that you might be able to, but believe me it isn’t worth your retrospection.

Things hurt when we expect a type of support from an individual/source from whom we have high hopes but instead, end up getting a rejection from that source; then we look for another source to fulfill our emotional needs and get caught in this never-ending loop of finding a source. Most humans desire social contact, and crave acceptance from society, being rejected incites negative feelings and emotions which result in the fear of rejection.

Now the thing is how to get out of that loop !

Firstly accept the fact that it’s going to be a long journey so don’t just rush your mind to overcome it. No one could get you out of this loop except you. Your friends can guide you, motivate you, you can listen motivational speeches or the song “Thukra ke mera pyaar mera inteqam dekhegi” and shit but it’s just a waste of time; instead just keep your ego aside and do a self analysis of the dominating factors that you feel you get carried away with and correct it to whatever extent you feel it to be done and then try to apply them in your day to day life.

There will be times when you might get carried away with your feelings or you might try to reenact the situation again and again in your mind to find fictitious positive results out of it. You might feel good for an instant but after a while you will end up in an ocean of guilt for not doing the right thing at that moment and you would lose all your progress that you would have done to reach this level of overcoming your rejection. There will be nights when even a minute would feel like an hour, you’ll get deprived of sleep, frequent anxiety attacks and various disturbing things like that but that’s the struggle required here. You have to force yourself out of this squishy mud of emotions which is holding you back from overcoming your fear of rejection so that your feelings don’t spill until you find the right source for it.